Not Quite Pinterest Perfect
I have an image problem. I have an image of what I believe a good mom should look like. This mom naturally enjoys the stay at home lifestyle. She loves the slower pace. She cuddles and touches her baby for hours. She is patient and crafty. She paints and does science experiments with her children and she knows how to keep those activities from becoming too messy.
As much as I want to, I cannot live up to this ideal. Honestly, I don’t want to. I lean towards a faster, task-oriented pace of life. I am a highly sensitive person and I don’t like to be touched too much. I like a neat and clean environment and feel rather anxious about paint getting on my hands, let alone all over the floor. I have given crafts and science projects a try, and I usually end up yelling, frustrated, and then exhausted.
Obviously, my reality is not lining up with my ideal image of a mother. So I have begun experimenting and playing to find out who I am as a stay at home mom. Let me tell you, this process is slow, sometimes boring and often frustrating. But gradually my way is emerging.
How to Find Your Way
This series is not a prescription of my way. This series will describe some principles I am learning that I think will help you find your way. I’ll share how I came upon these principles and how I used them to my benefit. I’ll also expose some of the roadblocks I stumbled on with the hope that you can avoid the same ones or at the very least take comfort in the fact that you aren’t the only one who is struggling.
In the next few weeks, I’ll explore how to:
- own and share your story
- listen to your own voice
- get over unhealthy, false “mom” guilt
- find meaningful and life-giving outlets
- find grace-giving peer groups
What are some of your questions and challenges from your motherhood/parenthood journey? How do you feel like you don’t measure up to the ideal image in your head? How have you discovered new ways of fulfilling your role?